I'm friends with this girl whose got wicked bad depression. She's been through a lot of shit and she doesn't really have any one to talk to about her problems, so I try to help her out as much as I can because I can relate to a certain degree and I care about her.
She's a great person, she's gorgeous, she has countless guys who would give anything to be with her and treat her right, but she can't see all that because she's been so hurt.
Anyways, she was dating this guy who surprise, surprise is a total dick. All his pictures on facebook are either him at the gym, him at the bar surrounded by girls, or him in his daddy's Chrysler 300 flashing his money. Ick. But, I didn't say anything. She was with him for about a year, and she lost her virginity to him. To say that this dude has her around his little finger is an understatement. He even started dating this chick who looked just like her after they broke up.
He would freak out on her for the smallest reasons. She would always call me crying because he takes out his frustrations on her. If he had a bad day at work or someone even LOOKED at the kid the wrong way, he would snap. I told her that this guy was no good. He was immature, and tried to play her but she wouldn't see it. She always told me that she knew the real him and he didn't mean it. Whether he meant it or not shouldn't matter. The fact of the matter is, this guy treats you like a dog and you're making excuses for him.
Anyways, they ended up breaking up eventually. He told her he could basically do better, and he left her shattered and broken. Now she's a mess and doesn't trust anyone. Deep down, she still loves the kid. She'd start to move on and really believe that he was a dick, but then he would show up at her house and take her out and all of a sudden all would be forgiven. Until a week later when I'm getting texted at 3 am that she's crying her eyes out.
I have no problem being there for a friend. Being a friend is a 24 hour a day, 7 days a week job and I'm totally ok with that. But when it's the same thing, day in, day out and you won't listen to my advice it gets a little frustrating.
I don't know how many different way's I've told her that he's controlling, he's a liar, he's a cheater, she should stop talking to him, whatever. But I always get the same response: "I already know that. I don't need your help."
Excuse me. YOU DON'T NEED MY HELP? So you don't mind if I turn my phone off at night then? You don't mind if I ignore your texts then? I think not.
I can't do or say anything that she apparently doesn't already know. All she does is get mad at me when I try to give her some advice. When I tell her she should delete him from everything so she won't be tempted to talk to him, she freaks out giving me some excuse how it won't help.
I'M getting stressed out about HER relationship! I can only imagine how much hair I've ripped out since I first heard about this loser. Fuck it's not even a relationship anymore! Honestly, woman, I'm doing my best here. But when I sign into my facebook and I see you commenting on how sexy he looks lifting weights, I want to puke. Then slap you. Then slap him. Then go buy a wig.
Sigh. When will you learn you can do so much better. All I can hope for is that if and when that day comes, I won't look like Dr. Phil.
Lucky
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